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by Sandy
Pendleton, MFT
Is There an Uneasiness in Your Life
but You Don't Know Why?
Are there things that only your heart knows,
the words not yet spoken even in the silence of your own mind?
Consider for a moment that this discomfort is a hint from
the small, soft voice of your inner wisdom. Ponder for a moment
what could be the positive intent of this discomfort in your
life. Remember I said positive, so look for the silver lining.
Is it inviting you to:
- Make some changes?
- Be thankful for the little things?
- Break some old habits? Start some new ones?
- Change the way you do things? Faster, more efficient, slower, less perfectionistic?
- Take better care of yourself? There are some delightful pamper products in our catalogue section, don't forget to take a peek.
- Play more? In life? In bed?
- Try some new things? Check out the product catalogue on this website for some fabulous new ideas and toys.
- Get away for a vacation? Some exotic local, just you and your partner? Or maybe it's time to have your partner take the kids away for a few days just to make space for you to be home alone for a bit.
- Change jobs? Something more in line with your passions? More challenging? Less stressful?
- Change friends/make some new friends?
- Renegotiate a personal relationship? Remember last month's suggestions about roles and rules?
- Maybe even break free from any unhealthy ones?
- Cultivate some new support systems? Join a support group? Find a therapist?
- Learn to say "No" to some things? Or maybe even, "Yes!" to others things. Just think of what that could mean in the bedroom!
Perhaps it is about asking for what you want and feeling worthy
to do so. What ever it is, imagine what your life would be
like if you could make those changes and ask yourself if it
is a life worth living for. If you could have a chance
to make it a reality, would it worth a risk? Ask yourself
if you could really be happy if you let the dream fade away
without at least trying.
Opportunity v.s. Burden
I heard something over twenty years ago that changed my life:
"All things in life can be seen as an opportunity or as a
burden, and it is always my choice as to how I see
them." Events in life are inherently neutral, it is in our
perception that judgment occurs. If you look for the opportunity
in the sadness you are feeling you may be able to see beyond
the burdens of your current struggles and find the gifts of
life that lie hidden in the darkness.
Gratitude
Sometimes it's best to start with the little things. Sarah
Ban Breathnach, author of Simple Abundance, offers the suggestion
of creating a gratitude journal. Each day write down
five things for which you can be grateful. In the beginning
it could be as simple as the sun came up today or a thought
like "if I can breathe I can be." Before long you may be able
to add things like "I ask for help and I got it" or "I said
'no' and everybody else said, 'OK'" or "I found the courage
to do something new and different", maybe even "So glad I
did" or "We loved it!"
Discomfort need not be something to fear, it can be a potential waiting to unfold. Remember to look for the invitation. You may just want to accept it, break free and live your heart's desire!
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